I have the capacity and power to create lasting positive change if I desire for things to be different to how they seem to be within myself, my relationships and my circumstances. Yet how?
Ingredients of change
- Meet myself in the here and now with compassion and patience
- Be open and honest with myself
- Be willing to take self responsibility as this is born of love and essential in self empowerment
- Let go of self judgment, criticism and blame as these are born of fear and trap me in old habits, patterns and dynamics
- Desire the change I want
- Choose to ‘allow’ myself to create change
To be aware
That it is my thoughts and beliefs that create how I feel and behave, not encounters, situations, events, even though these may impact upon me. My beliefs are the lenses I view myself and the world through.- This includes my subconscious beliefs often formed in childhood
- If the change I desire is not manifesting usually there is a conflict between the conscious and subconscious beliefs. If so, I may behave in e.g. self sabotaging ways
- Negative and fearful thoughts and beliefs steal my motivational energy and inner power leaving me without fuel to create change
- Relationships and the world can be my mirror to help me see subconscious fears, patterns, dynamics and wounds.
- That desiring and focussing on the change I want can flush up beliefs and wounds that do not resonate with my desire. This actually means I am right on track and presents an opportunity to heal what stirs from the subconscious so as it may be healed. This in turn will lead to lasting change.
- That ‘trying’ to make change is futile as trying and striving are born of fear and will trap me
- That I may be fearful of the unknown and this is why I often hold onto beliefs, patterns and habits that I have long outgrown
- That my nervous system may not be deactivated from past trauma and support may be needed for this.
Remember
To reflect deeply upon what I truly want as it may not be what first presents to the mind. What I truly want will arise from the depths of my heart and there will be a sense of knowingness.- Real change begins from within me. I can be the change!
- There may be a journey to take within my own consciousness, so one step at a time
- Change occurs all of the time, everything is evolving, it is inevitable and ceaseless.
- Accepting me just as I am in my humanity is the doorway to allowing real change to occur.
I have the power within me to create lasting positive change!
For more information or to make an appointment contact Kate at Jesmry Counselling Ph: 02 60431232 Mobile: 0410046148 Email: kate@jesmry.com.au